Are You Giving Away Your Power?

Written By Ann Alexander

Return to Your Own Center

Sometimes we do not realize how much of our power we give away in small, almost invisible ways.

We over-explain decisions that really do not require an explanation. We look for approval from people whose approval does not actually change anything. We apologize for reasonable needs. We say yes when we really mean no because disagreement feels like too much work.

None of these moments seem very big.

But over time, they can pull us away from ourselves.

This week, I want you to notice your pattern. Maybe you explain yourself long after you have already made a thoughtful decision. Maybe you minimize what you know so someone else will feel more comfortable. Maybe you agree too quickly because you do not want to create tension.

Just notice it.

Not with judgment. Not with shame. Just honesty.

Because real power is not about being the loudest person in the room. It is not about being forceful, aggressive, or always getting your way.

Real power is being able to stay connected to yourself when someone else has an opinion about your life.

It is listening without immediately doubting yourself.

It is being kind without abandoning your own needs.

It is understanding that you can care about what someone thinks without allowing their opinion to make your decisions for you.

This week, before you automatically agree, apologize, explain, or ask for approval, pause.

Take one breath.

Ask yourself: Am I responding from what I truly believe—or am I trying to make someone else comfortable?

You do not need to become more powerful this week.

You simply need to begin reclaiming the power that has always been yours.

One honest response. One clear boundary. One deliberate choice at a time.

Reflection for the Week:

Where am I giving away my power, and what would it look like to trust myself instead?

Have a great week,

With Love, Ann

Ann Alexander

My artistic journey began with formal studies at the esteemed Willoughby School of Fine Art in Cleveland, Ohio, during my formative years. Transitioning to Cincinnati in the mid-70s, I continued my artistic education at the Cincinnati Art Academy, all while navigating the excitement of high school. However, it was a pivotal move to Southern California during my senior year that expanded my artistic horizons.

In California, I pursued further education in art at Citrus College before transferring to San Diego State University to specialize in Fine Art with a focus on Graphic Design. The culmination of my academic pursuits led me to Platt College in San Diego, where I honed my skills in Graphic Design, laying the foundation for my professional endeavors.

Embarking on my career, I delved into the dynamic realm of graphic design, first with a prominent publishing company and later as a freelance designer. However, my path took an unexpected turn when I was introduced to the world of Merchandising, leading me to contribute my talents to renowned companies such as Pier One, Linens and Things, and Office Max.

Despite the demands of my professional life, my love for painting endured, even if it had to momentarily take a back seat. Now, as I re-enter the art world, I find myself rediscovering the joy and fulfillment that comes with creating art. Drawing inspiration from my experiences and the guidance of local artists, I have embarked on a new chapter, showcasing my evolving style and rekindling my artistic spirit.

My journey has undoubtedly shaped my artistic voice, evolving with each phase of life's twists and turns. While my style may have transformed over the years, it remains a testament to my growth as an artist and as an individual.

I am thrilled to share my work with you and your esteemed gallery, hopeful that it resonates with viewers as much as it does with me.

https://www.annalexanderartist.com
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